February 11, 2017



Hey Brandon,

Next week will be my very first Valentine’s Day with my crush and I don’t know what to do for him! I’m afraid that if I don’t do anything, he’ll be upset. What should I do???

Valentine’s Day Dilemma

Hey Valentine’s Day Dilemma,

Oh man. Valentine’s Day. I mean, I think it’s awesome. Sort of. Sometimes. But it also causes a LOT of stress! For everyone! Guys, girls, single people, coupled people.

My grandmother forbids my grandfather from doing anything for her for Valentine’s Day. She says she doesn’t want him to think he can just give her some chocolates one day a year and be done with it. She wants him to show his love all year long!!!

But, I get it. It’s different when you’re younger. A relationship that lasts a few months can be a long one. You probably haven’t spent too many holidays/birthdays/etc together. And, opportunities to celebrate are fun!

So, I’m not downer when it comes to Valentine’s Day. I’m just recognizing that it can be a lot of pressure.

But in your situation, here’s what I think you should do: talk to your crush. Be all like, “Hey, Valentine’s Day is coming. Are we doing anything?”

It’s that simple. He’ll probably be relieved YOU brought it up. And bonus: since you were the one who brought it up, then he’s the one who has to come up with the answer.

(Unless you have a strong feeling that you WANT something to happen. Then you should tell him. Say, “Are we doing anything? Because I was thinking about getting you a little something, but I didn’t want you to be surprised.”)

Or whatever.

So if you decide together that you ARE going to do something, it doesn’t have to be a big deal. It definitely doesn’t have to be expensive. You could make him some cookies or cupcakes. I know I would love that. 🙂

You could give him a gift certificate for time doing something he likes that you don’t usually want to do, whether it’s playing video games, watching some show you hate, or shooting hoops.

If you’re crafty, you could knit him a scarf or make him a phone cover or a drawing he could hang in his locker, or a picture frame with a picture of the two of you inside.

That’s it. Something from your heart, that will make him smile.

Wow, my advice is so good I think I’m going to follow it myself. 🙂

Readers, if you like someone, how do you guys celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are the most heart-felt gifts you’ve given?