May 22, 2023


Dear Nikki,
I have a crush on a boy, but one of my BFFs does NOT like him at all! Even though my ENTIRE school ships us together (totally NOT an exaggeration), my BFF is always mocking my relationship with my crush in front of my other friends ☹!

How do I get my BFF to stop wrecking my relationship with my crush while keeping my friendship with my BFF?

Worried About Relationship

Dear Worried About Relationship, 

I totally understand the frustration and stress of your BFF not liking your crush. If Zoey or Chloe didn’t like Brandon! OMG ☹!!  I’d feel just like you and do everything I could to fix the problem!

I think you should start by asking your BFF WHY she doesn’t like your crush. Maybe she sees him differently than you do or maybe there’s something about your crush that you aren’t aware of that your BFF knows.  Also, ask your BFF to stop criticizing your relationship with your crush and saying rude things in front of your other friends which is SO. NOT. COOL!  

Maybe your BFF is worried that you’ll stop being her bestie and start spending ALL your time with your crush and get closer to HIM.  This means she could be reacting out of jealousy or insecurity.  If that’s the case, you’ll need to let your BFF know how important her friendship is to you and that a crush could NEVER-EVER-EVER break your BFF bond!! 

Also, be sure to remind your BFF about the “Rules of Friendship” and that you’ll both need to listen to each other with an open mind especially since YOU may not always love every guy your BFF crushes on either! Let your BFF know that you wouldn’t let HER crush ruin your friendship with HER, so she shouldn’t let YOUR crush ruin her friendship with YOU!

At the end of the day, if she is TRULY your BFF, she will respect your choice and accept your crush. Who knows, maybe she’ll end up changing her mind after she sees all his AWESOME qualities and understands why you’re crushing on him 😊!  If not, just live your life and be sure that you are making the right decision for yourself.

Okay readers, what do you think? What advice would YOU give to “Worried About Relationship?” Has this ever happened to you? What did YOU do? Tell us all about it in the comments section below!