HELP! I’VE GOT HALLOWEEN COSTUME DRAMA!
Hi Nikki,Halloween Costume Conflict
Here’s the deal—I’ve known my BFF forever (we were even born at the same hospital just a day apart!). We ALWAYS dress the same on Halloween, and I always feel like I give into whatever she wants to be (even if I want to be something else). This year, I REALLY want us to go as minions (I found us the most hilarious costumes and MINIONS is our favorite movie!), but she’s insisting that we dress up as our favorite pop stars and take microphones to sing “Trick or Treat!” into. When I brought up the fact that she NEVER wants to do my idea, we got into a huge fight! It was our first argument ever! Now we’re not talking to each other. I don’t want to lose my BFF, but I’m so tired of giving in! What should I do??!?
Dear Halloween Costume Conflict,
This is a tough situation! Trust me, I know from experience that it can be really hard to balance friendships when you and your BFF don’t want the same thing. It’s easy to think, “Hey, we do EVERYTHING together! How could we possibly disagree on something?!”
But here’s the thing. Even twins don’t always like the same things. And sometimes, the more diverse your interests and ideas are, the more you can appreciate your friend.
Okay, so confession time: wanna hear more about how I can relate to you?
One Halloween, my besties wanted the three of us to show up to the school Halloween party as GARBAGE BAGS! And they were SO excited about it!
THEN, I got roped into dressing up for a little girl’s b-day party really close by. OMG, and guess what costume the girl’s parents gave me to wear to entertain all of the kiddies??? IT WAS A GIANT RAT !!
And THEN, I got asked to the Halloween dance by my crush (you know who!), so I wanted a Halloween costume just for me that, um…maybe wasn’t a garbage bag. Or a rodent! I got to wear a totally beautiful dress!
I tried to balance all three, without anyone finding out!
How well do you think THAT went down? Just read my Diary #2: Tales From A Not-So-Popular Party Girl to find out (SPOILER ALERT: Lots of embarrassment and devious acts by MacKenzie!).
SO, first of all, I think it’s VERY cool that you have a BFF that you’ve known that long! When I moved and started going to my new school, Westchester Country Day, I didn’t have any friends at all. Now Chloe and Zoey are the best BFFs a girl could ever have!
That said, there are even times with Chloe and Zoey when I feel like they don’t completely understand me—I mean, how could they? But when any of us share our feelings, we always seem to come together. None of us want to let each other down, even if it means sacrificing the things we want.
But from what it sounds like, you’ve been doing more of the Halloween sacrificing. My GUESS (and it’s just a guess!) is that your BFF had NO idea you felt that strongly about Halloween costumes for all of these years.
It’s DEFINITELY not your fault for being so agreeable . . . but it’s not necessarily all her fault for not knowing your true feelings.
Bottom line, you guys are BFFs! You can’t throw that away on a night of dressing up and begging people for candy! I mean, seriously, Brianna does that at least three times a week. (PS, Brianna, if you’re reading this, I know where that chocolate bar went, you little brat! I don’t believe for a second that Miss Penelope took it! )
Here’s my advice:
- First and foremost, after you both have had a little space, let her know that you want to work things out. Maybe text or call her and say that you’re so sorry that you fought. You don’t have to apologize for standing up for yourself—you shouldn’t be sorry for your feelings—but just let her know that you want to talk. Maybe ask her over for a sleepover!
- Don’t hold things back whenever you talk, but don’t be insensitive. Again, she’s probably more embarrassed than angry with you. Remember, she’s your BFF—it was never her intention to hurt you.
- Consider dressing up differently this year. Just a thought—you can both rock your own costume and still have a good time!
That’s all I’ve got for today! Now it’s YOUR turn, readers—have you ever had a major argument with a friend about Halloween costumes or anything else? Any tips for how to handle it? Tell us all about it in the comments below!
VERY IMPORTANT announcement
Hey fans, I have a VERY IMPORTANT announcement to make about Dork Diaries Book 15!
The year 2020 has been pretty crazy with A LOT of drama and unexpected challenges! So, unfortunately, my newest diary, Dork Diaries Book 15: Tales From a Not-So-Posh Paris Adventure, has been delayed and will not be coming out on the originally-scheduled publication date of Tuesday, Oct. 13th. It currently has a tentative release date of May 4, 2021, but I hope to have it out sooner than that. Fingers crossed!
I know you’re probably a little disappointed (and I am too!), but we’ll get it out as soon as possible. Until then, thank you for your patience.
Now, here’s a sneak peek of artwork from the new Dork Diaries Book 15!
Will our friendship survive this humiliating disaster?!
My Parents Won’t Let Me Get A Puppy!!!
HELP!! I am in DESPERATE need of a puppy!! I’ve promised to COMPLETELY take care of it, but my parents keep saying no. I think they don’t trust that I can take care of a dog, but I’m very responsible. I always do my homework, get good grades, and keep my room clean. I even babysit my sister and trust me—a puppy would be ten times easier. It’s totally unfair! What can I do to change their minds?
Pure Puppy Love
What’s Up Pure Puppy Love,
Okay, well this problem is right up my alley since I live with my grandparents who run an awesome animal shelter called Fuzzy Friends. First of all, it stinks that your parents won’t let you get a puppy. Puppies are the best!
But… here’s the thing: owning a dog is a BIG responsibility. We’ve actually had people return dogs that they adopted, because it was too much work for them—so I understand your how your parents feel (not that I’m taking their side). Puppies need lots of love, attention, and exercise.
Here’s a question: have you thought about who might be taking care of the puppy when you’re not around? Maybe your mom and dad aren’t worried at all about your ability to look after the puppy… maybe they’re worried that THEY’LL have to look after it. And that might make them really hesitant because they’re not ready to do that.
So now that we’ve got all that hard-truth business out of the way, I also get that you REALLY want a dog, and I want to help!
Dogs are proven to help people emotionally. You could always remind your parents of that. And making a difference in the life of a dog is very rewarding! When I’ve had a hard day at school (or when I’m confused about how Nikki feels about me), it always makes me feel better to be around the puppies at Fuzzy Friends. At least I KNOW they like me a lot (just kidding).
Here are some other things I’d recommend:
- Keep doing a great job at school and with your chores. The more responsible you are with that, the more they’ll see that you’re a mature kid, capable of being a really great pet owner.
- If possible, try to volunteer at a dog rescue home or veterinary clinic. Also, if someone in your neighborhood has a dog, offer to take it on walks (with your parents’ permission). Your parents will see your interest and dedication, and it might change their minds. You can try to see if your area has a local Animal Rescue League or Humane Society.
- Use that awesome brain of yours to come up with a detailed plan of how you would be able to take care of the dog. Include a realistic schedule that includes training time and costs.
- Speaking of costs, do research on how much money will be needed per month to maintain the dog’s health (you’ll need food, supplies, medicine and any veterinary costs). Try to think of ways that you could personally help to pay for the dog—ways you can pitch in, like saving your allowance and birthday money or offering to babysit.
- Speaking of lists, make a pros and cons list, showing that the benefits of your family owning a dog outweigh the cons.
- Have a serious conversation with your parents. Use all of your research and lists. I bet they’ll respect all the work you’ve done, they’ll listen, and maybe they’ll even change their minds.
Here are a couple of extra resources that might help with your research:
Good luck with your puppy quest!
Have you ever wanted something really badly that your parents wouldn’t let you have? What did you do about it? Tell us in the comments!
SHOULD I KEEP HIDING MY HIDDEN TALENT?
Music is my FAVORITE THING in the world! I love Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, and tons of other singer-songwriters. I want to write music and share it with the world someday!! But, when I sang one of my songs in Choir class last year, other kids laughed and just stared at me! I was SO embarrassed that I didn’t sing at all for the rest of class, and singing just hasn’t been the same for me ever since. I want to be a singer more than anything, but maybe I stink and just don’t know it! What should I do???Secret Singer And Songwriter
Hi Secret Singer And Songwriter,
I have SO BEEN THERE! It’s a super weird feeling to have so much fun doing something you love, but also wonder what people think about you! When I started to get really into art and drawing, I went back-and-forth between wanting to keep it a big secret and wanting to share it with EVERYONE!! (Okay, I wanted to share it with everyone EXCEPT MacKenzie, who always tries to ruin everything! Grrrr!!)
And when I first sang in my band Actually, I’m Not Really Sure Yet (check that drama out in Dork Diaries 3: Tales from a Not-So-Talented Pop Star), I was feeling that same combination of nervous and excited. When we were about to go on stage, I felt like I was having a panic attack! I was like, “WHAT AM I DOING??? IF I MESS UP, MY LIFE WILL BE OVER!!!”
Sharing your talents with people can be scary, because the truth is… no matter how good you are at something, not everyone will like your work (whether it’s drawing, singing, writing, dancing or whatever). It’s up to YOU to believe in yourself and your talents enough to shut out all the haters or any doubts that creep in!
EVERYBODY questions themselves sometimes, whether they’re MEGA-talented, or just getting started. Even the most famous singers still get embarrassed when they miss a note or dance move during a performance.
All of your singer-songwriter heroes have gone through plenty of rejection and heartache to get where they are today. But they didn’t give up, and neither should you. I mean, what if Beyoncé had given up after losing to another performer on Star Search (TRUE STORY)?! The world would be missing out on some cool songs and fantastic dance moves, that’s what !!
If you have songs inside you, write them down! Sing them out! Maybe in a place where you feel more comfortable than you did in choir class. Someplace where you feel supported.
Bottom line, I’ve got some advice for you:
- Take chances when it comes to your dreams. Reach out! Does your school put on any musicals? Does your community have children’s choirs? Are there any songwriting contests online for talented young musicians like you? Maybe have a parent, guardian or trusted teacher look into that sort of thing for you! There are probably SO many kids with dreams just like yours, and it would be great to be around people who share your passion!
- Work REALLY hard on anything that you believe in! Being good at anything takes hard work, no matter what you’re doing. If you have a big goal but want to skip the hard work (and the setbacks or rejections that might come along the way), maybe it’s not your true passion. You’ll be much more confident and relaxed if you KNOW that you’ve put in all of that hard work!!
Okay, readers, your time to chime in—have you ever had a talent that you were too shy to reveal because you were worried about what other people think of you? If you did show your talent, what happened? Tell us all about it in the comments!
Halloween Dork Maker
Okay guys, it’s the moment you’ve been waiting for! Drumroll, please…!
Now that October is here and Halloween is coming soon, it’s officially time to relaunch the HALLOWEEN DORK MAKER! SQUEEEEE !!
And guess what?! As an added bonus, you’ll find new costumes and other fun stuff to make your character shine (like a freaky full moon on the eve of Halloween. I think we’re supposed to have one of those this year. What a creepy coincidence, right?!).
So anyway, CLICK HERE and let the SPOOK-TACULAR fun begin!
Also, be sure to tell me your fav three costumes in the comments section below.
Spooky October Calendars!!
Seriously…time has really flown by, right? I mean September is over and now it’s already OCTOBER! Soon it’ll be time to break out the yummy apple cider, carved pumpkins, and of course, cool Halloween costumes!
What could be better for planing the ultimate month of fun than your very own Dork Diaries October calendar?! Just click on the download buttons below to download your calendar.
Your most awesome October ever awaits!
What are your plans for October this year and what are you fav activities to do? Leave your answers in the comments below!
October Calendar: Halloween
Right click the download button to save the calendar of your choice on your computer.
Quirky Question of the week
What’s up, friends! I have yet another dorkalicious Quirky Question Of The Week for you! Here it is:
WHO or WHAT gives you a severe case of RCS (Roller-Coaster Syndrome), also known as BUTTERFLIES?! Feel free to give us a short list of whoever or whatever it is. And don’t forget to include why!
Okay, I’ll go first! Here’s my list:
- Brandon Roberts, because he’s SUPER sweet and cute!
- My BFFs Chloe and Zoey, because they’re always a lot of fun to hang with!
- Writing in my diary, because I can say whatever I want and nobody else will see it but me!
Okay, now it’s YOUR turn! Please list what gives you RCS in the comments section below. I can’t wait to see your answers!
A Comic Strip from my best bud Max!
Hey readers! For this week, I’d like for you to hang out with my best bud, Max Crumbly. Below is a link to his website and a really funny comic strip about the challenges of going to school online.
After you’re done, please feel free to post comments below about how you like the comic strip.
SHOULD I CHANGE THE WAY I DRESS???
It seems like now that I’m in middle school, all of my friends are suddenly more concerned about what they wear. We used to never talk about clothes. All of us just wore jeans, t-shirts, baggy sweatshirts and whatever. But now whenever we Zoom, my friends talk about shopping all the time and they all try to dress trendier. They’re all crazy about “accessories” and stylish clothes. A few of them wear make-up. One even wears high heels and plucks her eyebrows!! I’m not ready for any of that. I don’t even have my ears pierced!! I don’t want to lose my friends. What should I do?
Hi Plain Jane,
I tend to embrace my inner DORK by wearing all kinds of clothes—okay, sometimes I don’t exactly wear them on purpose… like that one time our glam skating outfits were STOLEN by you-know-who and replaced with wacky clown costumes (you can read all about that in Dork Diaries 4: Tales from a Not-So-Graceful Ice Princess). Sure, I like wearing dresses every now and then, and occasionally I get a little jealous of the CCPs and all of their clothing bling, but I’m also a sucker for SUPER comfy sweatpants and sweatshirts.
My mom says that if I have fun dressing up, then go for it, but if it’s not my thing, that’s completely fine, too! And as for wearing HEELS? Sure, those things can bring together a fierce look, but let’s face it—by the end of an hour, they’re as painful as watching MacKenzie make a snarky comment and then sashay away. (I just HATE IT when that girl sashays! )
By the way, OMG, can you imagine eyebrow tweezers in the hands of my little sister Brianna at her so-called Salon Brianna? If she tried to give me another makeover with those things, I’d end up needing an ambulance!
SOOOOOO, no make-up, no necklace, no pierced ears? No problem! You don’t need accessories to rock whatever your look is—and more importantly, you don’t have to “rock” any look!
Have you ever read The Princess Diaries? It’s a book series—in the first book, there are two best friends, and when one of them starts to dress a little fancier, it starts to affect their friendship… but then they realize that appearances have nothing to do with who they are inside, so they make up (and by that, I DO NOT mean the icky, pasty kind you slather all over your face)!
Hey, by middle school and high school we’re all kind of changing physically at different rates, and that kind of thing can also make people change how they want to dress. So be patient with your friends. They’re fine for wanting to explore new clothing styles and you’re fine for NOT wanting to. And okay, this is going to sound SUPER cheesy, but whether you love dresses, leggings or overalls, the most important thing is that you can feel like your true self—because I guarantee that you’re awesome!
Here are some things you can keep in mind:
- Growing up doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are. Like I said, we’re ALL going through changes. You can play around with new clothing styles if you want to—but don’t feel like you have to force it!
- Have an honest talk with your friends about how you feel. Chances are, they don’t want to make you feel uncomfortable—they’re just excited about their new interests and want to share them with you. And guess what? Maybe some of your friends secretly feel EXACTLY like you!
- UM, MOTHER NATURE MADE ELASTIC FOR A REASON. We all need to be comfortable! Embrace the COMFY!
- On that note, comfortable clothes can TOTALLY be stylish!! So if you ever do feel like you want to go shopping with your friends, maybe have them check out a cool store with clothes that are more your style.
- Finally, remember that it’s fine to not even be THINKING about having a clothing style! If thinking about waking up for a day of clothes shopping makes you want to hit the Snooze button a million times, skip it (unless your mom’s making you go… or else you have to spend the day babysitting an annoying little sister like Brianna).
Okay, readers, your time to chime in—have you ever felt like your friends want you to be someone you’re not, whether it’s with clothes or something else? What did you do about it? Tell us all about it in the comments!