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February 27, 2020

SIBLING RIVALRY!

Dear Nikki,

Everyone compares me to my little sister and it’s SO ANNOYING! ☹ She is a lot prettier, skinnier, and more flexible than I am! I’m not that smart but she is in honors English, math and basically everything! We both do cheer and my coach says, “Oh, your sister is A LOT more athletic than you are,” and “Oh, your sister would never mess up her cheer routines.” Will it ever stop?!

So Sick Of Sibling Rivalry

Hi So Sick Of Sibling Rivalry,

Big yikes! I can SO relate to sibling trouble. My annoying sister is a lot younger than I am, which has it’s own downsides—TRUST ME—but it sounds like you and your sister are closer in age, if you’re in cheer together.

Having a sibling close to my age sounds really cool. Like, we’d get each other better, and want to watch the same stuff and listen to the same music and borrow each other’s clothes. I guess I’ve never thought about how we might be compared. Now that I think about that…UGH!

And it’s probably double UGH that she’s younger, but it seems like she gets more praise and attention! ☹

I bet it seems like everything is so great for her. But if you ask me, everyone has their own worries and issues. I bet she’s under A LOT of pressure, for one thing. She probably feels like she has to keep up with what everyone expects from her, or like she’d be disappointing people if she messes up her cheer routines or gets a C in math.

So maybe there’s some good to being the underdog? But still, you want people to believe in you. I get that.

I’m guessing you’re probably selling yourself short. Like, you’re probably prettier and smarter than you think you are! And you probably have strengths that your sister doesn’t have. Sometimes it can be hard to see our own strengths and good qualities, but I’m sure you have them!

Adults like your coach shouldn’t compare the two of you. When they say things like that, it’s fair to say, “I’m not my little sister, but I am doing my best.” Hopefully your maturity will help them stop comparing you to her.

Your best is all you can do! But you can also focus on your strengths and the things that make you stand out. And it might help to think about the pressure she’s under. As sisters, you should try to support each other!

So anyway, I think it’s important to tell people like your parents or coaches that you don’t like being compared to her.

And always remember to let your inner dork shine through! 😀

Do you get compared to a sibling? How does it make you feel? Do you feel pressure to succeed, or like everyone underestimates you? Tell us in the comments!

SIBLING RIVALRY!

Dear Nikki,

Everyone compares me to my little sister and it’s SO ANNOYING! ☹ She is a lot prettier, skinnier, and more flexible than I am! I’m not that smart but she is in honors English, math and basically everything! We both do cheer and my coach says, “Oh, your sister is A LOT more athletic than you are,” and “Oh, your sister would never mess up her cheer routines.” Will it ever stop?!

So Sick Of Sibling Rivalry

Hi So Sick Of Sibling Rivalry,

Big yikes! I can SO relate to sibling trouble. My annoying sister is a lot younger than I am, which has it’s own downsides—TRUST ME—but it sounds like you and your sister are closer in age, if you’re in cheer together.

Having a sibling close to my age sounds really cool. Like, we’d get each other better, and want to watch the same stuff and listen to the same music and borrow each other’s clothes. I guess I’ve never thought about how we might be compared. Now that I think about that…UGH!

And it’s probably double UGH that she’s younger, but it seems like she gets more praise and attention! ☹

I bet it seems like everything is so great for her. But if you ask me, everyone has their own worries and issues. I bet she’s under A LOT of pressure, for one thing. She probably feels like she has to keep up with what everyone expects from her, or like she’d be disappointing people if she messes up her cheer routines or gets a C in math.

So maybe there’s some good to being the underdog? But still, you want people to believe in you. I get that.

I’m guessing you’re probably selling yourself short. Like, you’re probably prettier and smarter than you think you are! And you probably have strengths that your sister doesn’t have. Sometimes it can be hard to see our own strengths and good qualities, but I’m sure you have them!

Adults like your coach shouldn’t compare the two of you. When they say things like that, it’s fair to say, “I’m not my little sister, but I am doing my best.” Hopefully your maturity will help them stop comparing you to her.

Your best is all you can do! But you can also focus on your strengths and the things that make you stand out. And it might help to think about the pressure she’s under. As sisters, you should try to support each other!

So anyway, I think it’s important to tell people like your parents or coaches that you don’t like being compared to her.

And always remember to let your inner dork shine through! 😀

Do you get compared to a sibling? How does it make you feel? Do you feel pressure to succeed, or like everyone underestimates you? Tell us in the comments!

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February 24, 2020

I’m sad all the time!

Hey Brandon,

I want to feel happy. But deep down I feel sad, depressed and anxious all the time. Whenever someone asks how I’m doing and I say I’m fine, I’m lying. Which makes me feel even worse! Please help.

Down And Out

Dear Down And Out,

First of all, thanks for sharing how you feel and asking for help. That’s really brave.

Let’s talk about the difference between sadness and depression.

Sadness is a normal emotion felt in response to something that happens—a fight with a friend, a lost dog, or a sick grandparent. Sadness goes away over time, and it usually gets better when you let it out, like by crying or talking to someone about it.

Depression, on the other hand, is a chemical thing that happens in the brain, and it can make you feel sad without a bad event happening to you. Things in your life can look AWESOME to other people and you can still feel depressed. It doesn’t get better over time without help. Some signs of depression include: overwhelming hopelessness and sadness, loss of interest in stuff you enjoy, overeating or not eating enough, and insomnia (which means you have a hard time falling asleep). You also have trouble concentrating or making decisions.

You mentioned anxiety, so let’s define that too: Anxiety is a feeling of nervousness, worry, or fear about something that’s going to happen or could happen. It’s a normal human reaction to specific events, like being anxious about a test or a doctor’s appointment. But when your worrying interferes with your life (like you skip class to avoid the test, or you don’t go to the doctor even though you’re sick), then you might need your parents or a counselor’s help.

Sometimes people who are depressed think that if they just tried a little harder, they could feel better. But depression is something that just happens in your brain, like dizzy spells. You can’t try hard enough to stop fainting. Instead, you’d go to the doctor. Same thing with depression.

I understand why you tell people you’re fine and you try to act happy. You probably don’t want to bring people down. You don’t want to worry your parents. You might feel like if you just say you’re happy enough times, you will be.

But you’re not going to feel better until something changes. Talk to your parents. They’ll probably suggest you see your doctor. Your doctor might suggest a counselor, or they might make other suggestions.

Also, try to exercise, eat nutritious food, and get enough sleep. These aren’t cures for depression, but they’ll help your body while you work on feeling better.

What makes you sad? Have you ever been depressed? How did things get better for you? Tell us in the comments.

February 20, 2020

I HATE WEARING DRESSES!!!

Dear Nikki,

I don’t know what to do!!! My parents make me wear a dress almost every day. Not just for church or dinner at grandma’s house, but even to school! I just want to wear hoodies and jeans like everyone else!! My mom says I look too “boyish” when I wear jeans. Help!!!

Dress Mess

Hi Dress Mess,

Okay, WOW. There are definitely days when my mom’ll say, “You’re wearing THAT?” and I’m like, “Well it IS on my body, so looks like I am!” I think we all have battles with our parents about clothes sometimes.

But only dresses all the time?! That’s hardcore! 

My first recommendation in situations like this is to explain to your parents HOW you feel and WHY, but do NOT under any circumstances use the phrase “everybody else.” As in “everybody else wears jeans!” or “everybody else’s parents let them wear what they want!” or “everybody else is NOT wearing dresses!”

That “everybody else” thing is like a blazing alarm that make parents LOSE IT. Again, I repeat—AVOID IT AT ALL COSTS!

Instead, tell them how you feel and why. I don’t know exactly how you feel, but here are some things I would probably feel in your situation:

I would feel different from everyone else. (LOL, there’s that “everyone else” thing again—another way to put it is, “I would feel like the dresses made me stand out in a bad way.”) Parents often tell us not to be a sheep and go along with the crowd, but it’s like they’ve forgotten when they were our age and how much they just wanted to blend in sometimes.

I might feel uncomfortable in dresses all the time. Like, physically uncomfortable. If we’re talking elementary school recess, SO many activities would be hard to do. If we’re talking middle school, it would be awkward to sit on the ground, and to step over the benches at cafeteria tables.

I would want some control over how I look, because that’s just a normal part of getting older. It’s fine for parents to pick out their baby or toddler’s clothes. But even preschoolers have favorite outfits! Clothes are one of the first ways we have to express ourselves to the world!

If your parents are willing to listen, here are some suggestions you could make:

  1. Start slow. Maybe they would agree to jeans on Fridays, for example. Or maybe you could start with pants that aren’t jeans. Some flowy wide-leg pants are almost like a skirt? You could try some black pants or khakis that would seem more dressed-up too. They might also be open to a cute skirt + leggings with a hoodie.
  2. Pair jeans with a nice top. This is on the same theme as above—jumping straight to jeans and a hoodie might give your parents a heart attack. Instead, maybe try jeans and a nicer sweater or flowy top. You could also ease them into the hoodie by pairing it with dresses! 
  3. Don’t give up on dresses. Make a point of looking really nice for non-school occasions like church or family gatherings, so they don’t think you’re going to live in jeans and hoodies from now on.

Do your parents like picking out your clothes? How do you handle it? What sorts of clothes do you like to wear? Tell us in the comments!

February 18, 2020

QUIRKY QUESTION OF THE WEEK

I just LOVE fairytales, don’t you?! 

My last Quirky Question was about asking a magic mirror your burning question if you had one just like the Evil Queen did in Snow White And The Seven Dwarfs.

Now I’d like to ask you something else that has to do with fairytales! Are you ready? Okay, here’s this week’s Quirky Question:

If your life were a classic fairytale, which one would it be and why?

You can choose ANY fairytale you want. For example, I’d choose Cinderella because she’s a total DORK like me who doesn’t fit in with her evil stepsisters and stepmother. But in the end, her fairy godmother gives her a really glam makeover,  she makes a handsome prince fall in love with her AND she gets her very own castle! SQUEEEEEE!! 🙂

Now it’s YOUR turn! Leave your answers in the comments below. And don’t forget to include WHY you chose your fairytale!

February 14, 2020

RACHEL AND NIKKI WILL BE IN DALLAS & AUSTIN, Texas!

Hang out with Rachel and Nikki as they celebrate the release of their latest books!

What: Keynote Conversation and Book Signing

Where: Irving Convention Center
500 West Las Colinas Boulevard 
Irving, Texas 75039

When: Saturday March 7, 2020 at 9:00am

Details: The Keynote Conversation will be held in Room GB 1-3. The Book Signing will follow the Keynote and will take place at the Exhibit Hall on the 1st Floor. On-site parking costs $10 per vehicle. Additional parking is available within walking distance. For more details check out: northtexasteenbookfestival.com

Guidelines: This event is FREE! Your favorite Dork Diaries and Max Crumbly books will be available for purchase on the first floor in the Exhibit Hall. You may bring 2 books from home for every 1 book you buy at the festival.
What: Author Discussion and Book Signing

Where: BookPeople
603 North Lamar Boulevard
Austin, Texas 78703

When: Sunday, March 8, 2020 at 11:00am

Guidelines: This event is FREE! Your favorite Dork Diaries and Max Crumbly books will be available for purchase and autograph. You must purchase your book from BookPeople to get your book signed. For more information call (512) 472-5050.
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February 12, 2020

I NEVER GET ANY CANDY GRAMS!

Dear Nikki,

Valentine’s Day is in a few days and I’m TOTALLY FREAKING OUT! At our school they do this candy gram thing where you can buy a heart lollipop for someone else. You can sign your name or leave it blank, and then on Valentine’s Day, they all get delivered. CCPs get A BUNCH. Some people get them from secret admirers. Last year I didn’t get ANY! It was SOOOO EMBARRASSING!! ☹

 I’m so stressed out that I might try to stay home sick. But then what if someone DOES send me one and I’m not there to get it?! HELP!!!

Catastrophic Candy Gram Crisis

Hi Catastrophic Candy Gram Crisis,

Ugh, that IS catastrophic! Sometimes those candy gram thingies drive me KA-RAY-ZEE! I mean, I get it why schools do them and some people think they’re awesome. But it IS really stressful if you don’t have many friends or enough allowance to buy one. And even if you have lots of friends and money’s not an issue, it’s SO stressful figuring out who to send one to so nobody gets hurt feelings, or whether you should sign your name when you send one to your crush! ☹

So, you’re NOT the only one who gets stressed out about candy grams. In fact, I bet the CCPs who get a lot STILL lose it when they find out somebody got more than they did, or none of them were from their crush.

Last time my school did this, my Grandma told me I should send one to myself and sign it from a secret admirer. Then I’d be guaranteed to get one. 😀 I mean, it’s not a bad idea! I was worried someone would find out I’d done that—talk about embarrassing! But actually, people are probably way too busy stressing out about the candy grams THEY got to be getting all into your business like that.

You’re definitely not the only person stressed out about this. Maybe try talking to a few of your closest friends. See if they’re up for sending candy grams to each other. Then you’ll each be guaranteed a few!

Another thing to do is focus on making other people feel good. This is something I do in a social situation where I feel awkward. I look for someone else who looks even more uncomfortable, and I talk to them and try to make them feel better. It gives me something to do and we both end up feeling better!

So you could think about people who might not be getting any, because they seem like loners or outcasts. Send them a candy gram, signed from “A Friend.”  (I wouldn’t sign them from a secret admirer, so they don’t get their hopes up about a fake crush.) Then, when the candy grams are delivered, you’ll be more focused on watching those people get their candy grams and how happy it makes them! 

In the end, it’ll only be one day. It’ll be over soon and you won’t have to worry about it for another year. The number of candy grams you get doesn’t mean anything about who you are as a person. But the number you give out of kindness just might! 😀

And if you don’t have any money but still want to spread kindness, you could talk to an adult who runs the candy gram thingie and maybe suggest a few names of kids who could probably use a “kindness-gram.” Hopefully the adult would be happy to make that happen without any money involved. 

Does your school do candy grams or something similar? How do you feel about them? Tell us in the comments! 

 HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!! 

Valentine’s Day will be here soon, and I am SO excited!!

I finally finished the super-cute, hand made Valentine’s cards that I’ll be giving out to my family and friends. Oh, and to my, um…CRUSH!  SQUEEEEE!!

Will you be GIVING or GETTING a Valentine’s Day gift?  If so, I have TWO fun and super-cool suggestions that you’re going to LOVE!

SUPER COOL VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT SUGGESTION  #1

What better way to spend YOUR Valentine’s Day than reading about the ENDLESS DRAMA that happened on MINE!!

I was a nervous wreck about asking Brandon to the SWEETHEART DANCE at school!  But, somebody else doing everything in her power to make sure it DIDN’T happen!

Here is a link to a SNEAK PEEK of the first 50 pages of Dork Diaries Book 6 so you can read all about my DISASTROUS day!!

Here is a short book video:

 

 

 

SUPER COOL VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT SUGGESTION  #2 

Great news!  I have finally added a Dork Diaries merch page to this website!

Please check here often for fun, new Dork Diaries stuff!  I added posters a week ago, and I’ll be adding party supplies in March!  Yes, soon you can have a party with plates that have my cute little FACE on them!  SQUEEEE!!

Our Dork Diaries posters are huge and colorful and come in THREE awesome designs!

And, to help you choose WHICH poster design is PERFECT for you, I actually made a QUIZ!

Click on the photo below to take my fun DORK DIARIES POSTER QUIZ!!

Tell me in the comments section below what you think of the Dork Diaries Book 6 SNEAK PEEK!  Also, which Dork Diaries poster did you get in the quiz and which one is your favorite?

February 8, 2020

I DON’T HAVE A CRUSH

Hey Brandon,

All of my friends have crushes except me. Sometimes I wonder if something’s wrong with me. The other thing is, I don’t really consider any of the guys at our school crush worthy. What should I do?

Cruddy Case Of Crush-o-phobia

What’s Up Cruddy Case Of Crush-o-phobia,

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with you. And there’s nothing wrong with not having a crush. Everyone is different. We all like different things. Some people fall hard and crush on the same person for years. Some people have a new crush every week. Some people never have crushes at all.  

It sounds like you have high standards. You know what you’d like in a crush. And that’s good. Because you know what? Having a crush is stressful. I mean, don’t get me wrong. It’s also a lot of fun. But there are a LOT of crazy feelings involved in having a crush. That person should be WORTH the energy you put into thinking about them.

If there’s no one at school or anywhere else who is worth that right now, it’s not something to stress out about. Honestly, that just means more time and energy for your own thing. Believe me, there will be PLENTY of time for crushes.

You might feel left out, though. I can totally get that. If your friends spend a lot of time talking about their crushes and you can’t relate, that might feel awkward. But I think you can listen, support them and get excited when things happen for them, even if it’s not happening for you. And hopefully they support you and celebrate you when it comes to your non-crush stuff.

You might also consider the fact that some of your friends are probably more into their crushes than others. Since you feel pressure to have a crush, others probably do too. So I’m not saying they’re lying, but I’m almost positive some of them have claimed a crush because they think they’re supposed to and not because of fluttery feelings and sweaty palms whenever that person is around. 

So, my point is that you’re not alone. You’re just being true to yourself. I think that’s awesome!

Hey readers, are you crushing on somebody right now, or are you crush-free like Cruddy Case Of Crush-o-phobia? What do you think makes a good crush? Tell us in the comments.